tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post115929446296752905..comments2024-03-18T03:28:36.581-04:00Comments on Shrink Rap: Please UnderstandUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159656909317670972006-09-30T18:55:00.000-04:002006-09-30T18:55:00.000-04:00Maybe the approach taken with this patient more ne...Maybe the approach taken with this patient more nearly coincided with what he wanted or needed at that point in time. That doesn't mean his previous therapy was useless. But he was ready to move on, otherwise why see a new therapist?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159421766136270592006-09-28T01:36:00.000-04:002006-09-28T01:36:00.000-04:00I hope you get better soon, dmm.I've been sick mys...I hope you get better soon, dmm.<BR/><BR/>I've been sick myself, was rather miserable with a fever and horrid other stuff, chest cough, other crud last week. So I sort of feel your pain.<BR/><BR/>You sure put me to shame. All I did today was sleep. And, surf, and watch tv. I did do two productive things last week, tho, so that's something. My sense of efficacy is rather poor, anyway.<BR/><BR/>It's not a contest, tho, I keep telling myself that.Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159420104857674752006-09-28T01:08:00.000-04:002006-09-28T01:08:00.000-04:00Why is "a job" better than a life of leisure and o...Why is "a job" better than a life of leisure and ongoing regular therapy? Isn't that how the heirs and heiresses live? We owe the cornerstones of modern science to unemployed aristocrats. Is it unhealthy to be an artist without a "day job?"MThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02341704109256270557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159398116907804632006-09-27T19:01:00.000-04:002006-09-27T19:01:00.000-04:00Sarebear,Thanks. I thought of deleting both of my ...Sarebear,<BR/><BR/>Thanks. I thought of deleting both of my comments because I feel like I am not making a whole lotta sense today.<BR/><BR/>I have recently been ill with a respiratory tract infection.<BR/><BR/>Yesterday I felt much better. I forced myself to do 4 loads of laundry, clean the kitchen, give the dog an extra walk, put on a facial masque and fix my fingernails, all because I knew that the window for "feeling better" depression and health wise, was gonna be a short one.<BR/><BR/>I wore myself out and as a result guess what? I am sicker today.<BR/><BR/>I do the same when the depressive fog lifts. I think of my future, world peace, housework I've neglected, projects I want to undertake--I literally freak myself out!DrivingMissMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11476761316928942301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159394613430279012006-09-27T18:03:00.000-04:002006-09-27T18:03:00.000-04:00Molly, I SO have felt/do feel what you are saying,...Molly, I SO have felt/do feel what you are saying, there.<BR/><BR/>EXACTLY what you are saying, in your last comment.Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159394234686693352006-09-27T17:57:00.000-04:002006-09-27T17:57:00.000-04:00I had to add one more thing...the borderline tende...I had to add one more thing...the borderline tendency to see things in black and white is represented in the last sentence of my prior post. <BR/><BR/>Just because I didn't have a good therapeutic relationship with several therapists and psychiatrists does not mean that they are/were all incompetent.<BR/><BR/>Some of them were, but not all. Many just were not right for me and a few told me straight up they did not want me as a PT for whatever reason.<BR/><BR/>One more thing--<BR/><BR/>Getting better is hard. having a new state of mind that may be clearer and more optimistic is foreign and scary. Victimhood enables you to hide from that fear.<BR/><BR/>I want to get better, but if/when I do, that means I have to be fully responsible for everything in my life. Suddenly everything opens up and I put alot of expectations on myself. I get overwhelmed.<BR/><BR/>Maybe the PT in the anecdote went through this?<BR/><BR/>LilyDrivingMissMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11476761316928942301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159391990480798462006-09-27T17:19:00.000-04:002006-09-27T17:19:00.000-04:00Someone help me. . .there is a saying that; "When ...Someone help me. . .there is a saying that; "When the student is ready a teacher will appear."<BR/><BR/>Perhaps the PT was ready? <BR/><BR/>When you go to someone new it's like your pores are open. It is another fresh perspective to absorb and to germinate fresh ideas into your mind.<BR/><BR/>It is difficult for me to believe this anecdote, however, and it's oversimplification, but epiphanies can and do occur as we all know.<BR/><BR/>I have often thought of this as I ruminate over past failed therapeutic relationships with therapists and psychiatrists. Was I not ready, or were they just less than competent. <BR/><BR/>I suspect it was probably a bit of both. . .DrivingMissMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11476761316928942301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159321491965966412006-09-26T21:44:00.000-04:002006-09-26T21:44:00.000-04:00I don't think "grow up and get a job" is very cons...I don't think "grow up and get a job" is very constructive. I think there are ways of being gently challenging, with some occasional possibly a bit jarring, in a good way in that it jars one out of a rut or something, without being so vague and, well, unpleasant.<BR/><BR/>Now, sometimes being challenged isn't pleasant, I can attest to that, but I generally see before the therapy session is over the point of what my therapist did; it's not some vague, critical thing.<BR/><BR/>My therapist's understanding and empathy IS a large part of the safety I feel in therapy, and helps me be more courageous in the difficulty of issues I confront . . . I suspect it can be sort of a tightrope of balancing for a good therapist to juggle understanding and empathy, with sometimes pointing out or questioning the patient on a subject that could use some movement . . .Sarebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208596053319110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26666124.post-1159320714198481742006-09-26T21:31:00.000-04:002006-09-26T21:31:00.000-04:00Somehow I doubt this patient was truly 'fixed', ex...Somehow I doubt this patient was truly 'fixed', except for maybe in his willingness to trust another therapist again. But I agree about the difficulty getting someone to break out of the idea of continuous victimhood---in my practice it gets used to justify a lot of criminal behavior.ClinkShrinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13316134491751195651noreply@blogger.com